7 Parenting Actions that can Ruin Your Child’s Future

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Every parent, even when meaning the best, can make a mistake. However, some of these mistakes can badly impact the future of your child. This post contains seven mistakes that you should avoid at all costs if you want your child to grow up into an upright citizen.

The list, originally posted on Forbes, is from Dr. Tim Elmore, an expert on leadership. Dr. Elmore believes that when a child is pampered too much, it may prevent them from thriving and also from fulfilling their full potential as leaders of tomorrow .

He goes on to say that both fear and lack of understanding play a role here, but it leads to the fact that each generation of parents is usually compensating for something the previous generation did. The primary adults in kids’ lives today have focused on now rather than later. It’s about their happiness today not their readiness tomorrow.

Many parents of today had parents who were very serious regarding readying themselves for tomorrow. They saved more money and did not spend it unnecessarily. Also, they were more concerned about preparing themselves for retirement. This led to many of the current parents to respond with a totally different message which was a clarion call to live life to the fullest by embracing the moment.

Many people heeded the call. This is what has resulted in credit card debts as well as their powerlessness to delay gratification. However, this may not necessarily be our main challenge. But there is one inescapable reality: parents who are longsighted and therefore focused on the future produce better results compared to those who are focused on the moment.

Unknowingly, we could be:

1. Shielding our kids from risk
Although it is only fair that we protect our children, kids who grow into adults without going through pain or normal failures like skinned knees or breakups are predisposed to developing phobias, becoming highly arrogant and also suffering from low self-esteem.

2. Not allowing kids to solve problems by themselves
Parents think that they are helping their kids by rescuing them too quickly. Nothing can be farther from the truth. This deprives them of the opportunity to solve problems by themselves. They are likely to grow into adults who cannot solve problems on their own.

3. Praising them too much
Praising children too much may work where a child suffers from low self-esteem. However, adopting the mentality of “everyone gets a trophy” and consequently turning a blind eye to bad behaviour can cause the children to cheat and lie while being unable to deal with difficulties. Ensure that your praises are specific and not necessarily about ability but effort.

4. Spoiling them
The common practice by most parents is to give children what they ask for when rewarding them. This is especially so with multiple kids. If one child performs well in something, some parents think that it would be unfair to reward that child and leave out the rest. This way, the parents miss the chance to enforce the notion that success depends on one’s own actions as well as good deeds.

5. Failing to share your own struggle stories
Do not feel embarrassed to talk about your past mistakes and frustrations. In fact, opening up can help your kids become tough.

6. Mistaking talent and intelligence for maturity
Kids who are smart might seem older. However, this does not imply that they are ready emotionally or otherwise to deal with various aspects of their lives. Just because they seem bright does not mean you should start heaping responsibilities on their young shoulders.

7. Not shaping how we want our children to be
For instance, we fail to instill the notion of “do as I say, not as I do”

While most of the tips above are essentially common-sense parenting tips, many parents easily fall into the short-term parenting trap rather than thinking of the future. The goal is to coach your child and not to coddle him. You want a child who can stand up for themselves even if left alone. Avoid the actions above and you will raise a child who is better prepared to meet life’s uncertainties.

How to Go About Your Underweight Toddler

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An underweight toddler is one of the biggest worries amongst many mothers today. It may be depressing and stressful at the same time, but finding an appropriate way of dealing with it is quite necessary.

The first step is to actually find out if the toddler really is underweight. This is the work of the doctor, precisely a pediatrician; they take the measurements of the toddler’s weight and height. Both of which are used to determine whether the child is underweight or not.

The doctor also takes into account the readings of the toddler’s earlier measurements and determines whether the measurements have changed positively or not. An acute drop in the weight over a short period of time will more often than not prove that the toddler is indeed underweight.

There are a couple of reasons why toddlers may be underweight.

• A child may be naturally slim because the genes inherited from his parents influence the weight. If parents are skinny, then the child is most likely to be the same; this should not be perceived as an underweight case.

• Illness; if a toddler undergoes a certain disease or sickness, he may lose weight and become very skinny. Putting on weight after he has recovered is appropriate, as it will help him regain his lost weight over a certain period of time.

• Worm infections; presence of worms in a toddler’s alimentary canal may also be a great factor contributing to a child being underweight. This is because the worms consume almost all the food, which the child has taken in. De-worming, on a doctor’s prescription, is a good solution to this.

• Digestive problems; your toddler might be undergoing some serious underlying problems in his igestive system, this needs to be checked as soon as possible so that the toddler does not entirely lose appetite, which could be fatal to the child’s development and health.

Giving your toddler a healthy and balanced diet is the most important thing when addressing the toddler’s weight.

What is a healthy and balanced diet?

• High starch content and carbohydrate foods

• Lean protein such as soft meat

• A dose of calcium at least three times a day, which can be obtained from milk, cheese and even beans

• Six portions of juicy fruits and fresh vegetables a day

• Water or healthy fruit juice

Increasing the content of calories in the diet of an underweight child is also very essential. Here are a few ways to achieve this:

• Add margarine and oil to the toddler’s food

• Apply mayonnaise in the toddler’s vegetables

• Make sure that the dairy products that you give to your toddler are full-fat rather than the low-fat usually consumed

• Add grated cheese to most of the toddler’s foods.

Studying your toddler’s eating habits or patterns is also quite helpful when trying to ensure that your child eats a lot more.

Find out when the toddler wants to eat most and maximize this period. Most toddlers are hungry after being very active such as moving around and playing. It is at this time that a mother should incorporate as much fat content as possible in the toddler’s meal as he will eat comfortably.

Most of the times, toddlers are not comfortable with the places where they eat such as the dining table or kitchen. It is, therefore, mandatory for you to find out where the toddler is comfortable with eating. Be it outside or in front of the television, knowing this will definitely increase the amount of food that the toddler consumes. When at work or unavailable, do not leave your child unattended to; having a well informed house cleaner or baby-sitter is highly recommended.

As much as an underweight toddler may be depressing, do not put too much pressure on the child to eat. This may have even worse effects than you probably imagined. The toddler might be even more repulsed when it comes to eating.

Do not give your toddler a bottle of milk every time. If they get used to this, they may get addicted and find solid foods less fulfilling. In addition, giving toddlers high fiber foods such as bread and rice is highly discouraged. This fills the toddler’s tummies, which are quite small as compared to those of adults. It therefore leaves little space for the rest of the nutritious food.

Having extra vitamins, which are necessary for the toddler’s age bracket, is also very essential. There should be high content of vitamins A, D and C. Vitamins tend to increase the amount of iron in a toddler’s body. High content of iron largely increases the toddler’s appetite for other foods. Do not supplement your toddler with iron directly though, as it may have dire consequences. Excess iron in the system may bring about constipation.

It is advisable to consult a dietician on what is perfect for an underweight child. Before listening to other mothers, it is important to consult a doctor because what worked for their children may not necessarily work for your toddler. Specialized doctors give accurate advice on how to improve the state of your underweight child and hardly do their recommendations ever fail, if followed with the utmost dedication.

Lastly, having underweight children is not unusual. Therefore, you do not need to be worried or get stressed about it because it can be dealt with by necessary action after good and suitable consultation process.

7 Most Common Reasons Why Babies Cry

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Every baby cries at one point in time or another. This behaviour is quite normal. Most toddlers cry for around one to three hours every day. It is important to understand that a baby completely depends on your for warmth, comfort and food. Crying is your baby’s most common way of communicating her needs, and ensuring a clear response from you. Sometimes, it can be quite hard to figure out what your baby’s trying to tell you. However, as time passes by, you will learn to recognise exactly what your baby needs.

When your baby grows, she will learn many other ways to communicating with her parents. Her eye contact will be much better, smiles would be more prominent, and noises would be loud. Thus, the need for crying to grab your attention will be reduced. In the meantime, you need to learn some common reasons why your baby’s crying. In this post, we’ve discussed 7 such reasons to help you take necessary steps.


This is one of the most common reasons for your baby is crying. When your baby is young, she’s more likely to be hungry. Since a small baby’s stomach is unable to hold a lot of food, you should offer her milk when she starts crying.

Even if you fed her just a while ago, she could still be hungry. When you’re breastfeeding your baby, she may be hungry on a frequent basis. However, if you’re formula feeding, she won’t be hungry if she’s been fed within the last couple of hours.

Nappy Change 

In case your baby’s clothes are too tight or she’s being bothered by a soiled or wet nappy, she may protest. Some babies don’t mind a full nappy. In fact, they enjoy the warm feeling. However, if your baby has tender skin, she may get irritated and start crying.

Too Hot or Cold

Most of the babies hate being bathed or getting their nappy changed. A baby may not be quite used to the feeling of cool air on the skin. She would rather want to be warmed up and bundled. However, it won’t take long before learning to change your baby’s nappy quickly. Here are some excellent tips to make sure your baby is neither too hot nor cold :

● You should not overdress your baby. However, she will still need one more layer of clothing to feel comfortable.

● You need to use cellular blankets and sheets as your baby’s bedding. If you want to check your baby’s temperature, you should feel her tummy. In case it feels too hot, you should remove the blanket. Similarly, if it feels cold, you should add one.

● Since your baby’s hands and feet would mostly feel cool, you should not be guided by them. The temperature of your baby’s room should range between 22-25 degrees Celsius.

● In case your baby is sleeping with you, you need to keep her in contact with you. This will raise her body temperature and keep her warm.

● If your baby is sleeping on a cot, you should let her sleep on her back. Her feet should be at the end of her cot. This way, she won’t get entangled in the blankets or feel too hot.

Physical Contact or Reassurance 

This is another common reason why your baby may be crying. Babies need a lot of physical contact, reassurance and cuddling. Your baby may just want to be held. You should keep her close to you, and sing to her. It may calm her down.

Many parents are worried about spoiling their babies because of holding them too much. However, it’s not possible during the first few weeks of her life. Babies need a lot of physical contact to feel safe and secure. In fact, your baby may even be calmed by listening to your heartbeat.

Proper Rest 

Most of the time, babies are unable to sleep because they’re very tired. It won’t take long before you learn the baby’s sleep cues. Crying and whining over menial things, going quiet, staring blankly into space are some common indications that your baby wants rest.

In case your baby received a lot of cuddles and attention from visitors, she may have been over stimulated. Therefore, when it comes to taking rest and sleeping, she won’t be able to just settle down. You should carry your baby to some place quiet, calm and cosy. You should try to establish some good sleeping habits.

Feeling Sick 

It is important to be aware of certain changes in your baby’s psyche and physiology. If your baby is unwell or sick, she’ll cry in a different tone. Her crying may seem more urgent, weaker, high pitched or continuous. Similarly, if your baby cries a lot, but suddenly went unusually quiet, it may be a sign of sickness.

As a parent, there’s no one else who would know and understand your baby better than yourself. If you think there’s something wrong, you should consult a doctor and talk about your concerns. If your baby shows difficulty breathing or the crying is accompanied by vomiting, constipation, fever or diarrhoea, you should immediately call a doctor.

Need Something, But Not Sure What

At times, you may be unable to figure out what’s making your baby cry. There are many newborns who go through some rough patches. It is very hard to comfort these babies. Their unhappiness may be caused by a lot of different factors. They may cry for several hours at a stretch. This constant state of crying is called colic. Colic is a common state in which a baby cries for at least 3 hours per day, minimum 3 days in a week.

Most of the parents find it very hard to deal with this condition. In fact, it can put the whole family under stress. It is worth mentioning that Colic does not have a magic cure. However, in most cases, it does not last for over 3 months. You need to accept this condition and understand that it will be resolved in some time. You can look for some valuable information to cope up with Colic. There are many strategies which can help you accept and manage this condition in your baby.

Raising Thankful Kids

With a silver spoon or a silver lining?

As the year comes to an end, give your child the gift of gratitude. What am I talking about, you wonder?! Well, as a parent and as a professional working with parents and kids, I often come across parents saying ‘kids today are so hard to satisfy…when they want, they want it now..AND when they get it, it holds their attention for a bit and then they want something else….”  Am sure you get the picture!

So, here is something to think about…do you think we are raising a generation of “I NEED…I WANT…ITS NOT ENOUGH’ kids? I think to some extent we are. Part of that is a reflection of our own values as a society where we are so invested in acquiring  more and wanting more…be it a new gadget, a bigger car or the latest fashion trend. We seem to be in a constant rush and frenzy as we live life by our ‘wish lists’. Think about it, when was the last time you took a pause and put on the brakes, to appreciate all the things you already have?

So, in case you are thinking, ‘Okay we get that, but apart from the obvious reasons, why should we teach our children to be grateful and thankful?’ Here is WHY! Research has proven that when we teach our children to be thankful and count their blessings, it develops resiliency, happiness and a positive attitude to life. While having a thankful outlook will not change the events in their lives, it definitely changes the way they perceive them. As children learn to find and acknowledge their blessings, even in the midst of difficult times, they learn that problems can be conquered and difficulties can be solved.

So, now that we know why it’s important for our kids to learn to be grateful and thankful, the next questions to answer is, ‘How do we help our children develop this life skill?’

The answer is closer than you think, as it starts with you! Here are some tips:

  1. Model Being Thankful – while this seems obvious, how many times do we take the time to verbalise that we are thankful and share that with our children? When parents express thankfulness for things in their life, children learn to do the same thing. Remember there is no better role model than you!
  2. Thankful treeBe a Thankful Family – made a concerted effort to help your children identify all the things you are thankful for as a family, starting with having each other! Gather your family together and create a ‘Thankful Tree’. It’s simple – each of you draws an outline of your hands and then writes/illustrates what you are thankful for. Discuss and process this as a family. Encourage the kids to think beyond their new toys, and look at other things like, “I am thankful I can draw well’ or ‘I am thankful that I have good friends’. Creating your ‘Family Thankful Tree’ is also a great way to bond and have fun as a family! Here is an example of one we did…the kids will love it and so will you!
  3. See Gratitude Everywhere – it’s easy to be grateful when the going is good, right?  So, as you develop this habit of gratitude, take it to the next level by showing your kids how to be grateful even when things appear less perfect and not so rosy.  For example, “Yes, the rain means your field trip gets postponed and I know you were looking forward to having fun with your friends, but the rain is great for the trees and the crops, and the earth really needed that! And you will still get to go to your field trip next week…”

So, parents rather than raising children ‘born with a silver spoon in their mouth’, lets raise our children to be the ‘silver lining’ kind of children that can focus on the positive, even as stormy clouds enter their lives today or tomorrow!

Happy Parenting and see you in the New Year with a Thankful and Grateful Heart!

Re-published with permission from the blog of ParentEdge, a bi-monthly parenting magazine that aims to expose parents to global trends in learning and partner with them in the intellectual enrichment of their children. This blog was written by Aparna Balasundaram, Psychotherapist and Life Skills Expert.

What parents can teach their kids about Mandela

The world is mourning the death of Nelson Mandela, an extraordinary man, a symbol of strength, dignity, leadership, survival and courage. Our children’s generation (many of whom were born after Mandela was freed), cannot even comprehend the 27 years of imprisonment he suffered and how he was able to win freedom for his country, the last remnant of European colonialism and the symbol of the dreaded apartheid. In telling the story of this great man to our children, there are several lessons we can impart:

1. The courage to hang in there:  what you think is difficult is almost negligible compared to what Mandela went through.  Unlike most political prisoners, Mandela was treated as an ordinary prisoner and given hard and menial tasks, and even contracted TB as a result.  But as Mandela himself said, “Difficulties break some men but make others.” About his persistence, he said, “Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.”

2. Do not hate:  Mandela would have been fully justified if he can come out of prison filled with hate. What is extraordinary is that he bore very little ill feeling towards his captors, saying, “No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”  This is so true for us parents, and we should use the story of Mandela to show how hate and bigotry should be shunned.

3. The importance of education:  If Mandela could get a law degree in prison, in spite of working under  back-breaking conditions breaking rocks in the lime quarry, clearly he saw tremendous value in it, realizing that  “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.”  We should teach our children to make education a priority, and that is  only long-term and peaceful way to change the world.

RIP Madiba.

Re-published with permission from the blog of ParentEdge, a bi-monthly parenting magazine that aims to expose parents to global trends in learning and partner with them in the intellectual enrichment of their children.This blog was written by Gayatri Kulkarni

Swaddling your Baby is Sweet


The practice of baby-swaddling dates back centuries and is still common in many cultures. Swaddling involves wrapping a baby securely from shoulders to feet with a small blanket.  American Indians and people from the Middle East use bands and more sophisticated swaddling techniques, but more traditional swaddling techniques are still practiced in such countries as Turkey, Afghanistan and Albania.

 Not only can swaddling be a great way to calm and sooth a fussy infant, it’s also been shown to lower the risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). At the age of three months, when the risk for SIDS is greatest, traditional American swaddling techniques allow a baby to escape.  It allows the baby to stay in a more stable position while sleeping, thereby lowering the SIDS risk.  In addition, swaddling has been shown to help babies sleep longer and more restfully by preventing the sudden movements that can cause them to wake up, thereby improving mom and dad’s sleep quality and quantity also.  Babies who are swaddled are said to feel secure, similar to how they felt while in utero.  It can also assist in temperature regulation, keeping baby nice and toasty warm while sleeping.

A couple of additional perks to swaddling come during waking hours, too.  A swaddled baby is easy to carry and hold ¾ an adorable, compact little package. It can also help baby focus on breast or bottle feeding by keeping little hands out of the way.

Swaddling usually works best from newborn to approximately four months, but if baby is used to being swaddled, and then it might be utilized even longer.  Babies just being introduced to swaddling may require an adjustment period.  Modified swaddling, such as leaving arms free while swaddling the rest of baby’s body, might be needed when first introducing the practice to your baby.  The blanket should always feel snug but not tight.  Take special care to ensure baby’s circulation is not compromised in any way or that baby is not uncomfortable.  Ask a nurse, physician, midwife or other knowledgeable healthcare practitioner to demonstrate the correct technique for swaddling your baby.

Natural Treatment Options for Infertility



By Jayaram Rajaram

My team and I have been blogging about various parenting topics and pregnancy for a while, and while doing so we realized that there are many couples out there who are struggling to conceive. The worst part is many couples who are absolutely healthy and probably not even clinically infertile sometimes struggle to get pregnant. In many cases such couples are being advised to go in for IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) after other Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART) and allopathic medication which rely on chemical bombardment don’t show results. While IVF is an option, according to me, it should be the absolute last option for couples. IVF is not only painful sometimes, but is also emotionally and financially draining. Not for a moment do I say do not go in for IVF, but that should be your last resort, in my opinion. IVF also has side effects as you are messing with nature and the known side effects could range from drug reaction to ovarian hyper-stimulation syndrome to miscarriage to multiple-births.  All this said, I understand what an emotionally depressing phase not being able to conceive could be for couples. So, the final decision is of course yours- YOU KNOW BEST!

I have written this post, as it relates to my company Bril’s Niche (The Baby and Children niche) and is in-line with our (Bril’s) Mission,To Make Living Fun for people. I am an avid believer in natural and alternative treatments for any health issues because of a personal experience. When I was around 14 years-old I was diagnosed with a rare eye disorder called Keratoconus, a condition that distorts the cornea and vision as it progresses. When specs and contacts didn’t work, the western medical fraternity asked me to go under the knife, for a corneal transplant (surgery).  They said I had no other choice! If I had done that, there is a chance that I wouldn’t have been able to type this post. I chose to research my own natural treatments which included homoeopathy, eye exercises learnt at Aurobindo Ashram Pondichery, highly purified and energized water called tachyonized water and not getting stressed about my condition.  For so many years, touch wood, the situation has been under control and improved, because I didn’t succumb to the ‘scientific’ way of doing things. Do you now see why I believe that every person can do their own research to find a good natural treatment option for themselves, for any medical condition including fertility issues? It’s very important to understand your body first and do your own research rather than jumping to the ‘done thing’ according to your allopath’s suggestion.

Based on my personal experience of choosing natural medication over allopathic treatment for an unrelated medical condition and insight from our research on infertility treatments, we decided that we should give couples who are trying to conceive all or as many options available to them (in the form of a comprehensive list you will see below) so one of the methods will hopefully help them conceive naturally, deliver healthy babies and Make Living Fun. Before there is any confusion, let me clarify that I am not a medical practitioner and that there is no 100% guarantee to getting pregnant. Nobody can guarantee this (Even IVF is not a 100% guarantee), but what I wish to do here is to present as many natural alternatives as possible, that couples could research, choose from and try before resorting to IVF. I do not rubbish allopathic treatment, but hey, if it can happen naturally why not do as much reading as you can and try a few safe natural Chinese (herbs, acupuncture, acupressure), Ayurvedic, Homoeopathic remedies, vitamin supplements and make those simple lifestyle changes to see if you can have a baby naturally.

I believe that each one of the options listed below could work for somebody (I have personally gone through some of the over-hyped books just to be sure and found some very useful information that couples could use. No, there are no miracles or guarantees as some products claim!). My objective is to list all that I find and encourage people to share other natural treatments that have worked for them with me (in the comments section, which I may add to the main post later), so we could add to the list. You don’t have to do or buy all that is listed, but research and opt to pick up one or more of what you feel will really help you. Even if you don’t buy or try anything listed below, there are many free resources all over the internet that you should go through and implement (many free resources are also listed below):

It may be a good idea to bookmark this page for future reference as it has a lot of useful information that you could go through at leisure and keep revisiting while you research treatment options.

1. Homoeopathy:

Homoeopathy was born in Germany and today has a global following for all the right reasons. Homoeopathy works wonders for many fertility issues as it has the ability to cleanse and treat your body from the root on a like-cure-like principal. A wrong notion about homoeopathy is that it cures slowly, contrary to that belief, if your doctor identifies the underlying problem and administers the correct medicine; results can be seen very soon. Even if you are not infertile, homoeopathy has the ability to prepare your body for conception. Some couples who have opted for IVF also resort to homoeopathy to increase their chances of success.

In my opinion, Homoeopathy should definitely be a major part of your overall natural infertility treatment plan if you decide to go natural and give natural conception a serious try.

My homoeopathy doctor, Dr. Venkatraman is a great doctor based in Chennai- India. He is a highly qualified homoeopath with the added experience of working directly under a homoeopathy stalwart – the late Dr. Koppikar for several years.  Over the years, he has successfully treated several patients with diverse health issues, including fertility problems.

Dr. Venkatraman can be reached at drpvvmd@gmail.com  or you can call his clinic at 0091-44-24341301 / 0091-44-28174389. I do not know how regularly he checks his email but that is probably the best way to reach him. I just mention my doctor here as I have first-hand experience with him. There are many great homoeopaths around the world, and you could just find a great one in your city. Make sure you don’t get stuck with a highly commercial and useless homoeopath (as there are many of those types too!).


Click here for some free information about using homoeopathy to cure infertility


Warning: The important aspect of choosing a good homoeopathy doctor is to ensure that he / she is certified and doesn’t adulterate medicines with steroids. Good homoeopaths will ask you to buy medicines from authorized homoeopathy pharmacies or allow you to test medicines they give you in any independent drug testing laboratory.

 2.  Ayurveda

Ayurveda is the world’s oldest known medical science, which originated in India over 5,000 years ago. The main source of this ancient knowledge is the Vedas or the divine books of knowledge propounded by spiritual rishis (sages) in India.

Ayurveda is not simply a healthcare system, but a form of lifestyle adopted to maintain perfect balance and harmony within the human existence. According to Ayurveda, life represents a combination of the Atma (soul), Mana (mind), Indriyan (senses) and Sharira (body). It revolves around the five elements (Panchamahabhutas) that constitute an individual’s nature or Prakriti. This nature is determined by the vital balance of the three physical energies – Vata, Pitta and Kapha – and the three mental energies – Sattva, Rajas and Tamas.

With its Indian roots, Ayurveda commands great respect among millions of patients who have been treated for various health conditions using this ancient science. You may wish to research and try Ayurveda as an option during the course of your natural fertility treatment. Please note that you have to be careful in choosing a good Ayurveda doctor and ensure that the treatment doesn’t clash or contradict with other natural treatments you are adopting. Eg. Some Chinese treatments may ask you to avoid consumption of milk while trying to conceive, but Ayurveda encourages consumption of milk.

Jiva Ayurveda is one of the many Ayurveda clinics that treat infertility. Please click here to visit their site.


Ayurvedic Cure for Infertility- Free Article


Warning: Even with Ayurveda please ensure you go to a well-known, registered doctor to ensure he/she uses unadulterated medicines.

3. Natural Fertility Prescription

Swiss Natural Fertility specialist, Iva Keene is an internationally recognized naturopathic physician who specializes in fertility. Iva Keene has developed a unique and very effective program called the Natural Fertility Prescription (or Program). This program uses a holistic approach to treating infertility to help couples conceive through non-invasive, natural procedures ranging from ancient Ayurveda to Chinese medicine. Her course encompasses step-by-step fertility planning program, an 8-step conception plan, diet plan, yoga and other natural treatments that are doctor endorsed. What caught my eye here is that some medical Doctors like Dr. Mercola of mercola.com fame and Prof. Dr. Arendt Rainer. Professor of Cardiology, University of Zurich, Switzerland recommends this program. Iva Keene offers a 100% digital home-study fertility program in text (PDFs) and mp3 formats. In addition to the NFP (Natural Fertility Program) you can also buy phone consultations with Iva Keene if you wish to, from her online clinic.


Click here to visit Natural Fertility Prescription and get more information.


4.  Acupressure and Acupunture:

Acupressure and acupuncture are very effective ancient Asian techniques to apply pressure using hands or pierce special needles into healing       points on the body. Acupressure and acupuncture heal several ailments in the body by removing energy blockages in the body. Acupuncture and   acupressure can be used very effectively in your holistic natural infertility treatment process.

The following free resources will get you started till you find a qualified acupressure / acupuncture specialist in your city / area:

Click on the links below to read free articles about acupressure and acupuncture:


Treat Infertility through Acupressure


Acupresure for Fertility Video


Treat Infertility through Acupuncture


Tips on Using Acupuncture to Treat Infertility


Not related to acupressure or acupuncture Click here for some free tips to enhance male fertility   

Warning: Though the risks of acupressure and acupuncture are low, always go to certified specialists only. Also please ensure that you are not pregnant during an acupressure / acupuncture treatment, as it may lead to a miscarriage.

There are also some pretty interesting and very useful books on reversing fertility issues naturally. Some of the books listed here are over-hyped (Please don’t go by the hype alone) and you may find people calling them scams etc., but each one of the books has some information that could help somebody, and hence is listed here.  For many books, Amazon, Flipkart and direct purchase links are given below so you can click and purchase right away if you wish:

1. The Infertility Cure: The Ancient Chinese Wellness Program for Getting Pregnant and     Having Healthy Babies 

              by Dr. Randine A Lewis


Infertility affects one out of six couples today. Dr. Lewis presents a groundbreaking alternative approach to infertility, explaining how she used traditional Chinese medicine to treat her own infertility, successfully conceiving and giving birth to two children.


2.Making Babies: A Proven 3-Month Program for Maximum Fertility [Hardcover]

By Sami S. David and Sami S. David (Author) Jill Blakeway (Author)


MAKING BABIES offers a proven 3-month program designed to help any woman get pregnant. Fertility medicine today is all about aggressive surgical, chemical, and technological intervention, but Dr. David and Blakeway know a better way. Starting by identifying “fertility types,” they cover everything from recognizing the causes of fertility problems to making lifestyle choices that enhance fertility to trying surprising strategies such as taking cough medicine, decreasing doses of fertility drugs, or getting acupuncture along with IVF. MAKING BABIES is a must-have for every woman trying to conceive, whether naturally or through medical intervention. Dr. David and Blakeway are revolutionizing the fertility field, one baby at a time.

3.Taking Charge of Your Fertility, 10th Anniversary Edition: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health [Paperback]

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Holistic and ancient Chinese system for getting pregnant and having healthy children.


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Preparing Older Children about Pregnancy

Preparing Older Children about Pregnancy

You just found out you are pregnant, and the first thing that pops into your mind is, “How will I tell my children about this new addition?” You are certainly not the first or the last one that will struggle with how your child will receive this news.

While it may be exciting for your child now, it may be one of the tougher things that he or she will have to deal with and may mark the beginnings of sibling rivalry. For some, this may begin soon after the arrival of the second baby. Some children become aggressive and others withdraw into a shell during this time. So it becomes especially important how and when you deliver this news along with supporting your older children along the way.

First of all, it is important that your child hear about your pregnancy from you and not from someone else. No matter how old your child is, this piece of information should be introduced by you and can be a great opportunity to talk about where babies come from even if you are using the most simplistic explanation. You may choose to tell your child during the first trimester before others begin to exclaim about your changing figure.

Preparing Older Children about PregnancyIf your older child is sleeping between you and dad as in the case of many Indian families, it becomes important to address the sleeping situation well before your due date arrives. This is important so that your older child does not feel displaced by the baby. So if you have plans to move your child to a different room, begin right away. If your older child must begin preschool, then ensure that it does not coincide with the arrival of the new baby. You certainly do not want your older child to associate being thrust in the care of someone else with his new sibling’s arrival.

Get your older child involved by taking her to prenatal visits with your doctor. It may help your child feel involved in the pregnancy itself. Looking at pictures of your older child as a baby with him will also get him used to the idea that the new baby will not be his instant playmate. It is important that your child knows what to expect when your baby first arrives; that the baby will not able to do too much beyond eating and sleeping for the first month or so.

Visit the library and ask the librarian for suggestions of children’s books that deal specifically with introducing your older child to the idea of a new baby. These realistic stories will help your child see the new arrival more as an addition to your loving family than as a rival for his parents’ attention. In fact, give your child every opportunity to ask questions about any concerns she may have, allowing her to vent her feelings about your changing family.

Preparing Older Children about PregnancyAt this time, it is especially important to assure her that she can never be replaced and that the new baby is going to love her and look up to her more than anyone else. Assigning a protector kind of role to your older child is much better received than telling her that she is going to have someone to play with.

Finally, let your child participate in any preparations you are making towards readying the house for your new baby. Give her the choice of making decisions such as where she would like the crib to be placed along with where she would like the baby’s clothes and diapers to be stored, just make sure that you give her options that are acceptable to you. Soon your older child will come around to accepting the arrival of your new baby and will even look forward to it with eagerness.

Republished with permission from MothersDelight.com, No. 1 destination for Indian Mothers with information, articles, blogs and a vibrant community on Pregnancy and Parenting.