Parenting has been a constantly evolving process. Every subsequent generation has different ideas about parenting which, generally almost always, is frowned upon by the previous generation. Especially in India, where parents play an important role as advisors to their children about parenting, it is hard not to be influenced. But things are changing and young parents are finding their own methods and techniques.
It is that time of the day when temple bells ring louder than ever, teachers do overtime, and children experience something that adults experience daily-Stress!
That’s right, exams are around the corner and while your children are preparing for the same, parents too can start working their homework- ‘how to keep children stress-free during exams?’
There was a time when having more than one baby was the norm and having one baby was more of a concern. But today, with rising inflation, exorbitant costs attached to baby care & education, parents are thinking twice about having more than one child. It may sound like a fair enough reason for rearing a single child, but there many reasons why your child needs to grow up with siblings-here are some:
Holi, one of India’s most colourful and joyous festivals is coming soon! Holi will begin on the evening of March 1st when people gather around a fire and the spend the night sing, dancing & frolicking. The fire symbolises the death of the evil demon Holika who tries to kill Prahlad, a devotee of Vishnu. This is called Choti Holi or Holika Dahan. They also chant prayers and perform other rituals around the fire, to ward off evil, if any, inside them.
Sleep deprivation is common with new moms, which can affect their health and make motherhood a burden rather than a joy. These are some ways how new mothers can avoid sleep deprivation:
Be clear with your sleep needs with your partner and other people at home. Avoid taking up responsibilities and try to delegate more. Sometimes family members don’t understand the gravity of the situation, so it is better to discuss with them.
Having a new baby is probably the most wonderful experience of anyone’s life, especially if you just start a new family and have always wanted to become a parent. A baby could be the source of happiness in any home, but if the inexperienced parents really don’t have a clue of what to do with the baby, then the little one could instead become the source of frustration.
- Stop Feeling Guilty: There are times when you are at home you worry about work and when you are at work you are guilty of leaving your children at home. You are not selfish, think of your work as the means for better educational opportunities for your child, better childcare & healthcare for your child & family. Such notions will comfort you.
- Get Quality Childcare: Do your research on nannies or preschools before you settle on one. Speak to other parents, check records & their experience before you hand over your precious little one. Someone you can blindly trust with your child; someone who will take care of your child as they would their own.
- Leave notes or a calendar with instructions: Make sure your presence is not missed even when you are physically not around. Leave notes or reminders on the calendar with regard to bills or groceries. This also makes your family a little more responsible and gives you scope to delegate duties.
- Have clarity in communication with your employer & colleagues: Much of the research on your part needs to be done during the early months of pregnancy. Ask your colleagues about what benefits they had when they were pregnant, speak to your employers about the flexibility in leaves, maternity benefits and also use to your advantage the information you have gathered from your colleagues.
- Don’t even try to multitask: When you are at work, stay focused, don’t waste time with office banter or online browsing. When you are at work, work, and when you are home don’t worry about work. Give time to your partner in the evenings and reserve important office calls or emails for when your child goes to sleep. Multitasking never leaves you fulfilled.
- Take time out for yourself: Don’t forget to find time for yourself. Focus on your health and nurturing your hobbies, be it outdoor sports, gardening or reading. This time you spend with yourself will rejuvenate your tired mind & body and get you energised for the busy week ahead. You also develop a fresh perspective to work, children & your daily life and will be in a relaxed & calm mood to face any obstacles or challenges whatsoever.
It is easier said than done, but working moms do have a lot of juggling to do. A little balancing, though, will make life more enjoyable and less burdening.
With both parents working for demanding jobs under stressful timelines, tablets & phones have become the new babysitters. They help in feeding, putting them to sleep and keeping them occupied anytime, anywhere. Preschoolers use touchpads like feeding bottles and while tying a shoelace is tough, finding the power button on a device is not!
Are we making our kids lose themselves in a virtual bubble even before they have seen the real world?
Let’s look at the effects of excess screen time on children:
Is your child possessive about his/her toy or bedsheet? Does he/she throw a tantrum when a friend or sibling plays with his/her toy? Research says that children learn to share at the age of 3, but may take time to adopt the concept. There are ways in which you can encourage the concept of sharing in your little one.
The working mother concept is not a new one anymore. With women making it big in various fields and at the same time investing in child rearing & family, they have forever put to rest the myth of ‘gender roles’-something which was created to obstruct women from working.
But a working mother definitely has more on her plate than a working woman or a mother. Being there for the little ones and managing a demanding career can be tough.